5 things girls who are “one of the boys” know a little too much

One of the boys.

I can’t even remember how many times people said that to me. I grew up with my brother so I know how guys roll. Or at least I think I do. I want to believe that I can speak their language. Lol.
For a girl who is close to her guy sibling, it’s not hard to get close to other guys too. In a way, guys are easier to be friends with. Less drama.
Being one of the boys have their advantages but it also gives people different ideas about you. Things that I know a little too well. Others are understandable, others are just a little too ridiculous.

1. Every guy you hang out with is either a boyfriend or a date

Being one of the boys mean you hang out with guys more than you hang out with girls. Going to dinner with a guy is a normal Saturday night. For us anyway. Just because a girl and a guy is seen together does not mean they’re “together”.. It’s just dinner. People eat. We’re people. Ergo, it’s just dinner.

2. You are either a lesbian or a flirt

My mother thought I was a lesbian at some point of my highschool life since I was wearing baggy jeans, shirts that are 3x my size and was always hanging out with guys. Her favorite line was… “Tomboy man ka!”
You are a tomboy…” (In the philippines, tomboy and lesbian is the same thing for most people)
If you’re not a tomboy, you’re a flirt. Since I proved that I was straight due to my 6-year long term relationship with a guy, people thought I was such a flirt. That comment pissed me off when I was younger but looking back, it’s so ridiculous. I didn’t even know I knew how to flirt. I guess people thought I did. Awesome.

3. People ask you why it never worked out with a friend. Or friends.

People asked me this about 4 of my close guy friends.
“Why didn’t you become a couple?” “We’re just friends.”
“But you are sooo close.”                  “We’re just friends.”
“You’re always hanging out and you look good together..”      “We’re just friends.”
You can be a couple if you chose to..”     “We’re just friends.”

You don’t need to have a romantic relationship with all the guys that you are close with. If that’s the case, girls who are one of the boys will be 3-timers or even 5-timers. C’mon.

4. Your guy friends talk like you don’t exist. Or you’re not an actual girl.

My guy friends talk with no sensors when I’m with them. Seriously, no sensors. No filters. They’ll talk about their sexcapades like no girl is in the room. It makes you feel appreciative that they are so candid with you around but sometimes it’s insulting when they talk nasty about girls. It’s hair-standing-on-end kind of moment too when they go into the details.. What’s worse is when they talk about girls that you actually know. Guys talk. Trust me.

5. Girlfriends get jealous of you and vice versa

I didn’t know this until my close guy friend revealed that 4 out of 5 of his girlfriends was actually jealous of me. They had no reason to be.
When this happens though, I distance myself out of respect for the girl but they usually confess during breakups. Great. One of my guy friends who change girlfriends about every other month already has a script. When a girl says yes to him, he tells the girl about me and how she doesn’t have to be jealous and then introduces me to the girl. Same goes when I have a boyfriend. Orientation is a must.
Sometimes it works, sometimes it backfires. How? Go back to # 1… 🙂

These are just a few things that has happened to me for all the years that I have been me. Meaning, all my life.
It’s fun being one of the boys but sometimes it’s not worth the argument with loved ones. Explaining is just too exhausting sometimes.

What I believe though, if a guy truly loves you, he’ll accept you for who you are. You need not explain being you. Guys who truly love you would understand that they’re not the only guy in your life.. 🙂

one of the boys

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Valentine… oh My Valentine…

Alright.

Everything is back to normal. No more diabetic-causing chocolates, no more thorny roses or itchy stuffed toys. Kidding. I love Valentine’s day. Everybody seems to be…. floating. Yes, that’s the word, floating.
I see people smile and greet strangers just because it’s Valentine’s day. Where did this all come from anyway? So, my curiosity and the internet got me this..


Apparently, 1 story states (choosing the most interesting) Valentine may have been killed for attempting to help Christians escape harsh Roman prisons, where they were often beaten and tortured. According to one legend, an imprisoned Valentine actually sent the first “valentine” greeting himself after he fell in love with a young girl–possibly his jailor’s daughter–who visited him during his confinement. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter signed “From your Valentine,” an expression that is still in use today. Although the truth behind the Valentine legends is murky, the stories all emphasize his appeal as a sympathetic, heroic and–most importantly–romantic figure.

Well there you go. Girls all over the world need to thank this guy. But don’t we find it weird that it’s mostly girls that get spoiled on this special day? It’s a day for couples yet girls get more out of it than guys. Materially speaking.

Anyway, you really didn’t think I’d end a blog without sharing my Valentine experience did you?
I’m a girl. Well, a woman for that matter.. and you guessed that right. I was spoiled. But the great thing about my day was that I did not just spend it with my loved one, I got to spend it with my family and friends as well.

Here it goes…


Feb. 14, 2013

12:00mn

My boyfriend stopped me from whatever I was doing, played “Far Away” from Nickelback on the itunes and asked me to slow dance with him. It was one of the most romantic 5 minutes of my life. Valentine’s day is looking pretty good.

5:30am

Got bored so I prepared coffee and cookies over candlelight. Because candlelight dinner is too mainstream so we opted for a candlelight snack instead.
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1pm

You probably figured out I have a night job so I usually wake up at this hour and lo and behold, I woke up to this sweet display. You know what I thought when I saw this? Ice cream for breakfast? alright!!! heheImage

5pm

My brother and I had a misunderstanding and I haven’t talked to him for weeks. It is the love day after all.. So I went to his Tattoo shop and gave him a single long-stem rose. See? Girls are not the only ones that need to be spoiled. So of course, we hugged and made up (after bawling our eyes out- so damn emotional!).
We also treated our mom to dinner where we gave her a bouquet of red roses.
Fine. Everybody is getting spoiled today.

After buying a couple’s shirt (we’re corny that way…), my boyfriend and I bought a pack of chocolates and gave them out to total strangers in the mall while greeting them a happy valentine. Seeing their shock and smile (yes, that’s in sequence) made the day even more special for us. Getting spoiled. I did say everybody right?

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7pm

Dinner and drinks with friends and their partners was a good way to end the night. We even surprised our boys with the set-up (thanks to my friend Abigail’s efforts). They had no idea that we planned it out. My boyfriend kept asking me when we planned it, how we planned it and how we got away with it.

Boys, just because you’re with your girlfriends almost 24hrs a day does not mean we can’t get away with secrets. Trust me. We can. And we did.
It was a perfect ending to a perfect day.

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So there you go. That was my Valentine’s day… I’m hoping Valentine’s day 2014 will top that.

But I do wish that we spread love not just on the 14th of February but everyday of our lives.

So, How was you Valentine?